Ten Things I Wish I Can Go Back & Tell My 18 Year Old Self
Hello beautiful people! Have you ever wished you could go back in time and inform your younger self of what life would be like ahead? Maybe even prevent a few things here and there. I am sure a lot of you said “omg, yes” so uhh yeah, someone should work on the invention J Lately, I found myself skipping down that oh so familiar memory lane. The age 18 sticks out like a blinding light. What a year! I wish I knew what I know now back then.
When I was 18 years old, I thought I knew everything. Who didn’t at that age? I was young and wild making careless mistakes and I let a lot of opportunities pass me by. I found myself in situations that could have been avoided and messes that could have been cleaned up. It was all a learning experience but there is always that “what if” thought. “What if I could go back in time and have a very important talk with myself at age 18?” We would be talking all day because there is a lot I would need to say.
I wanted to share the top ten things I would tell my 18 year old self. I could not stop laughing as I narrowed down my list. I scratched a lot off of the list simply because they were the dumbest/best part of my life. Cheers to living and learning!
Top Ten Things I Would Tell My Younger Self:
10) “You actually have to go to ALL the classes on your schedule.”
When I first started in college, I would enroll in all of these classes that ranged from 8:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Long story short, I would party all night and not make it to my morning classes and when the weather warmed up I would ditch my evening classes. Eventually I failed the courses and had to make it up by overloading the following semester. It dragged my G.P.A. through the dirt! So I would tell my younger self all about the importance of going to every class and making it a priority.
9) “Everyone is NOT your friend.”
Younger self, just because a person laughs with you does not mean they have your best interest. Wolves often dress up in sheep’s clothing. Keep your eyes open, ears clear, and heart protected.
8) “Getting drunk until you slur your words at parties is so NOT cute.”
Oh boy, I have a much better understanding of the legal drinking age now that I am older. College= endless access to alcohol and I didn’t hesitate to partake. I would drink at parties in college until I was so drunk my speech was slurred, I was all over the place, and I would ramble on until the sun comes up. In my mind, I was so cool and cute. In reality, I was a drunken fool. Younger self, alcohol should not be thrown back like water and if you do get too intoxicated, just don’t talk to people.
7) “School refund checks should be saved and NOT splurged on food, cheap clothes, and more food.”
In college, my favorite time of the year used to be refund check time. I would spend all that money on things that I have nothing to show for. I went from being a broke college student to receiving as much as $4,000 a refund. You can only imagine how I handled that. I would love to go back and tell myself “as much as you want to “ball out” on your refund check, don’t. If you do decide to spend it, at least buy some quality items.”
6) “Get involved in whatever you can.”
I wish I would have been more socially involved in positive activities. At 18 years old, my last concern was spending all of my free time in clubs or activities. I wanted to hang out with my friends. It was because from middle school to high school I was always involved in clubs and cheerleading. When it was time to start college I just wanted a break from that life. That was one of the decisions I wish I did not make. I should have been involved in everything I had time for.
5) “Credit is everything so protect and build it. Also, debt does not just disappear, honey.”
This is self-explanatory. Younger self, protect your credit and pay your debt as soon as you make it. It will save you a lot of years of trying to fix it.
4) “Never devalue yourself.”
Nothing is worth devaluing yourself. At the end of the day, you have to deal with it and no one else. Do not do it for vengeance, money, boys, or anything in between. You have high standards and great values so keep it that way. Devaluing yourself does not solve problems and it causes pain.
3) “Prepare for your future before college graduation and do not wait until after.”
Younger self, from the day you step foot on that college campus start preparing for your career and future. If you wait until after graduation, you will have to play catch up. Take advantage of every internship and volunteer opportunity. Also, start building your portfolio early and keep every project that you ever worked on. Opportunities are endless but you have to be prepared.
2) “Don’t be afraid of the world seeing your uniqueness.”
Being unique is a great thing and it separates you from the bunch. Embrace your talents and goofy personality and don’t hide your smile. Let go of the boring barrier you put on for people and let them see who you really are. You will be surprised how many lives you touch once you just let go and be yourself. Introduce the world to the real Erica. The people will not run away from you. If anything, they will love you more.
1) “Real love will come, do not force it.”
Younger self, boys will come and boys will go. Do not spend so much time trying to force love out of something that was never meant to be. Spend that time learning to love yourself so you will be capable of properly loving someone else. Just because your heart gets broken does not mean that is the end for you. If you find a dog, let him stray in peace. Just don’t stick around in hopes that you can train that dog because your heart will feel the damage. Trust in the signs girl and keep your heart intact. Trust me, it will be worth it J
Of course, I could go on and on with the things that I would tell myself if I could go back in time. I had a lot going on at 18. What would you go back and tell yourself? Feel free to comment below and share this post so your friends can join as well. I cannot wait to hear your responses!
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